Marriage Preparation / Wedding Guidelines
Contact: Parish Office
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Ministry Mission Statement: Marriage Preparation helps engaged couples prepare spiritually for their marriage and their wedding day.
Current Ministry Activities: Giving comprehensive wedding and music guidelines; conducting an all day Saturday Pre-Cana Program for the couple; arranging for the couple to meet with a certified couple for FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study) Sessions; inviting each couple into the facilitator’s home at dates and times that are convenient for them for a total of four meetings.
Marriage preparation should start six months before the wedding date. The parish staff is available to help engaged couples prepare spiritually for their marriage and their wedding day.
The first step in the process is contacting the Parish office for information regarding the requirements for scheduling a wedding at St. Francis. Once the requirements have been verified, a wedding date can be scheduled. Next an interview will be scheduled with the couples who will be given comprehensive wedding and music guidelines, as well as a booklet, “Together for Life,” for information about the wedding liturgy and choices of scripture readings. They will also be asked to meet with the Director of Music Ministry.
Couples will be asked to participate in an all day Saturday Pre-Cana Program. The objective of Pre-Cana is to give engaged couples time to think about their marriage in relation to the Church. The presenting couple will discuss the sacrament of matrimony in accordance with the clear teaching of the Catholic Church.
Additionally, engaged couples will meet with a certified couple for FOCCUS Sessions. FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study) was developed to reflect the value and ideals of marriage as sacred and deals with topics of permanency, fidelity, unconditional love, openness to children and shared faith in God. It is also a process to help couples learn more about themselves and their unique relationship.
Each couple is invited into the facilitator’s home at dates and times that are convenient for them. There are a total of four meetings. This one-on-one creates an informal, comfortable environment allowing an opportunity for open and honest communication with direct feedback. Through a comprehensive survey, areas of strengths and those needing growth are identified. The facilitators offer the benefit of their marriage experience to give insight to the realities of married life, and strategies for successful communication and conflict resolution. The development of a mutual prayer life is encouraged as a powerful force in marriage. The engaged couple is reminded of the seriousness of the covenant they are making and the graces that will flow from the sacrament they will receive.
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